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Having first made sure I have the details of people the few people I 1) did not have on other platforms and 2) wanted to stay in touch, or had at least given them mine. Feel slightly apprehensive, but mostly good- it had become a source of social anxiety, weird status envy, and learning that I disagreed with people I otherwise really liked, and would not have known this without their Facebook. (Not even terrible things- just people feeling very strongly about What Is Correct Characterisation In LARP in a way I disagree, or feel very strongly about things express this especially aggressively).
So- I am now going to try and remember that I have had a social life *fine* without Facebook in the past, that I do actually manage most of my social life without it, and that I like having a social life where my main thoughts on encountering a person are "Oh, it is Person! It is nice/interesting/suprising to see them here" and not "Oh, it is Person, I must not tell them HOW WRONG they were on the internet last week"
(This is less of a problem for other platforms- Facebook just hits a lot of things for me. Especially as it often suggests friends in an unhelpful, although predictable, algorithmic manner: despite having *many* Facebook friends in common with her, I would rather not add the girl who outdone me to our year when I was 15 as a friend. Likewise, I have between 40-60 friends in common with my ex husband, and although I wish him well and am glad he seems to be doing well, I did unfriend him for a reason. (Mostly: not wanting to know about the minutiae of his life, weird irrational conviction that he was doing life better than me)
cAlso, had a pre university/leaving drinks thing yesterday, and enough people turned up to justify it (C and H, who are my London-going-to-the-pub-and-sometimes-also-church friends, E- a queer geek friend, A who was at the first lesson of swing dance to which I went and with whom I'd been meant to have coffee for ages and my baby sister). Many other people couldn't make it, but sent nice texts/made other plans. I felt happier for it, and got to prove to my sister that yes, my friends do actually exist. (She also liked them and got on with them, which helped).
So- I am now going to try and remember that I have had a social life *fine* without Facebook in the past, that I do actually manage most of my social life without it, and that I like having a social life where my main thoughts on encountering a person are "Oh, it is Person! It is nice/interesting/suprising to see them here" and not "Oh, it is Person, I must not tell them HOW WRONG they were on the internet last week"
(This is less of a problem for other platforms- Facebook just hits a lot of things for me. Especially as it often suggests friends in an unhelpful, although predictable, algorithmic manner: despite having *many* Facebook friends in common with her, I would rather not add the girl who outdone me to our year when I was 15 as a friend. Likewise, I have between 40-60 friends in common with my ex husband, and although I wish him well and am glad he seems to be doing well, I did unfriend him for a reason. (Mostly: not wanting to know about the minutiae of his life, weird irrational conviction that he was doing life better than me)
cAlso, had a pre university/leaving drinks thing yesterday, and enough people turned up to justify it (C and H, who are my London-going-to-the-pub-and-sometimes-also-church friends, E- a queer geek friend, A who was at the first lesson of swing dance to which I went and with whom I'd been meant to have coffee for ages and my baby sister). Many other people couldn't make it, but sent nice texts/made other plans. I felt happier for it, and got to prove to my sister that yes, my friends do actually exist. (She also liked them and got on with them, which helped).